To be frank, I’m not a morning guy. I can’t wake up at 6 am unless there is a meeting to attend. And whenever I get chances to fix a meeting, I fix it in the morning only so that I can get up for the sake of meeting. When I get up, I prepare my coffee, eat a healthy breakfast, and brainstorm. Then again brainstorm. Then we execute and see the results. But in the evening, we don’t work. I just hit the gym, maintain my diet. Sometimes, I just sit in the coffee shop and just watch what people do around me. Then I see what I’m doing. And I find all the time that I’m drinking coffee, obviously. Again, we work at night, listen to speeches, watch movies, read books (non-academic) and go to sleep.

These are my practices which I do honestly. Let me tell you what I used to do 2 years back. I would wake up at 06:30 am every morning, I would do shit and would entertain shit daily. Then I would do the same shit every day. That was a dysfunctional version of Shubham.

But there are times come when you don’t have any idea what you are really doing. When you don’t have any idea where you are heading to.

When I was a kid, I caught many ants, big, small, red and black. And I threw them to the webs of spiders many times. Spiders came and ate them. A natural thing. So, I would sit there every time, watching the ants to be eaten. I didn’t know what was really happening. Maybe, I didn’t have a brain because I was a kid (stupid). But now when I recall those moments, I ask every time, “Was I helping spiders by feeding them or was I killing ants?


Maybe, I would never find the appropriate answer because it depends on the viewpoint. That kid version had found it good but this version of mine is still thinking.

All I want to say is, what you do, sets the kind of life you’re going to have. Change your habits if they are hindering you. And trust me, there is no good month to start but this one. This is the last month, think what you have done so far and think what you really need to do.

Formalize your rituals. Because it’s not the thinking which you have in your mind affects the people around you, it’s your rituals.

Start now.



By Shubham Paul

I'm a wizard who doesn't know magic tricks. I spend my day with my coffee and my work. I just love what I do.

6 replies on “Rituals”

Sometimes it isn’t very easy to change habits, I always wish to get up early to study, but I’m never able to, but everyone tells me how great it really is to get up early, so I sleep early, but am still not able to get up, which of course ends up wasting my night time as well which I could’ve used to study.

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I recommend you to change the goal of getting up early. No hard feelings, but instead of studying something, you can choose another thing, like running or singing or just bird watching in the morning. It will definitely help you. Keep experimenting. One day, you will find the right determination.
Thank you so much and live well. 🙂

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